Extroverted Introvert…Is there such a thing???

Extroverted Introvert … is there such a thing… Maybe.

Below are some of the traits of an extroverted introvert….

1. YOU’RE GREAT WITH PEOPLE

As an extroverted introvert, you know how to work a party.

You can be charming and funny, and most people around you think you’re a genuine extrovert; one who simply gets along with everybody.

2. UNTIL YOU’RE NOT

Extroverted introverts reach a point in any social situation where they’ve had enough.

While they may have been initially energised by the buzz of human interaction, a couple of hours of it and they’re completely drained.

They want only to be alone, not talking, so they can recharge.

3. YOU PREFER ONE-ON-ONE

Communication with another person one-on-one is usually the favourite type of interaction for an extroverted introvert.

While they are great with people, they don’t really like small talk – something they find too prominent in group situations.

Extroverted introverts prefer to spend time with people they are really interested in and can have meaningful conversations with.

4. YOU HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY

No matter how many times an extroverted introvert makes a great impression in a social situation, social anxiety always rears its head in the hours (or days) before the next time you’re required to be “on” for a crowd.

They know they’ll enjoy it once they get there, but think about cancelling many times before they leave the house.

Sometimes they even go out with friends not because they want to, but because they don’t want to disappoint them. 

5. YOU LOVE BEING ALONE

Extroverted introverts don’t understand anyone who is uncomfortable being alone. 

Sometimes an extroverted introvert will go an entire day without speaking to another human being and not think twice about it.

They love being by themselves, and find being alone reading a book, watching a movie, or partaking in any other solitary pastime, extremely invigorating.

6. BUT STILL GET LONELY

Just because you’re good on your own, doesn’t mean it’s always good for you.

Extroverted introverts still get lonely when they cross the fine line between loving their alone time, and needing social interaction.

It’s often hard to know that you’re lonely because you’re so comfortable in your own space that you don’t want to leave it.

7. YOU CAN MEET ANYBODY

Extroverted introverts are good at meeting others’ parents, partners, girlfriends and boyfriends, bosses, you name it.

They’re good at asking questions because they don’t really like talking about themselves, but still manage to walk away knowing the person they were talking to thought they were the interesting one.

8. YOU FIND FRIENDSHIPS THAT NEED MAINTENANCE EXHAUSTING 

The ideal friend for an extroverted introvert is one that isn’t demanding. 

Friendships that require work, like the kind that need constant attention and communication otherwise that friend gets needy, don’t usually last long. 

Extroverted introverts are happier seeing each of their friends sporadically, and if months (or even years) go by between hang-outs, it’s no big deal… you’ll have more to catch up on anyway. 

9. SOMETIMES YOU’RE BAD AT MESSAGING 

On any given day, an extroverted introvert might feel like complete solitude. That means no replying to messages and texts, and they’ll only pick up the phone if they think it’s important. 

Extroverted introverts can be bad at messaging, not because they don’t want to talk to you, but because they don’t want to talk to anyone

10. YOU DON’T LIKE COMPLIMENTS

Sure, extroverted introverts like making a good impression and want to be noticed.

But when somebody actually gives them a compliment to affirm them, they get completely bashful and feel very uncomfortable.

It’s a strange oxymoron: like you want people both to look at you, and not look at you, at the same time.

11. YOU’RE HAPPIEST IN CAFES

An extroverted introvert loves being around people, but not necessarily engaging with them.

Cafes are the prime spot for this: you can look around and see the hustle and bustle of life, and at the same time be removed from it.

The result is one of those great situations whereby they feel like they’re part of something, but there’s no pressure.

12. YOU LIKE GOING OUT, BUT THEN YOU WANT TO GHOST

Extroverted introverts do enjoy going out with friends and being social.

Take them out drinking and dancing and they’ll thrive on it, but there will come a point – and it’ll happen like the switch of a light – where they’ll just want to go home.

Not because they’re not having fun anymore, simply because they feel it’s time to be silent.

Naturally, their inclination is to ghost from these situations, because goodbyes leave them riddled with guilt.

So there you have it. Very rarely is the world black and white but rather shades of grey and the extroverted introvert is an example of this.

Hope you enjoyed this.

Andrea

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